Friday, March 23, 2007

Real Moms

Mad tagged me with Kristen's Real Moms meme. I have lots of ideas, but struggle when I think about speaking for other mothers, or trying to generalize my experience to other mothers. Regardless, I'm taking a stab, speaking for myself.

Real moms feel confident that they are doing their best for their kids. (Most of the time.)

Sometimes real moms feel overwhelmed, and uncertain in their decisions. Sometimes real moms start to second guess themselves, and wonder if maybe they should have done, should be doing, something different.

Real moms wonder if they are making the right choices. This is how we know we're doing our best. This is how we know that our kids are so important to us, that every little decision and choice matters.

Sometimes real moms need to step back and remember that real moms are not perfect moms. There is no such thing as a perfect mom. Real moms make mistakes, and we won't ever know exactly what they are. Because real kids are individuals.

Real moms are the foremost authority on their own kid(s). Real moms are the experts. Even if they don't always feel it.

11 comments:

slouching mom said...

Real moms make mistakes, and we won't ever know exactly what they are. Because real kids are individuals.

This is so true, and I think too often forgotten.

Mimi said...

Very well-expressed, and so true. Real moms, I guess, are real people ...

Mad Hatter said...

Stated like a true expert, Sin. Good job.

Beck said...

Excellent. You've captured a bit of the scary and beautiful vulnerability of motherhood, I think.

mamatulip said...

I like your take on this. Nicely done.

Kyla said...

Excellent!

metro mama said...

Real moms are the foremost authority on their own kid(s). Real moms are the experts. Even if they don't always feel it. Well said.

NotSoSage said...

Hmmm...I commented here a couple of hours ago and it's gone. I wanted to say that this was beautiful, and so well said.

And I loved Playing By Heart...many fewer people have seen it than should have. SD does, indeed, have good taste in music.

Mouse said...

Let's hear it for the grammar nerds!

I love starting sentences with "and." I carefully excise it from all of my formal writing. And then add it all over the place in my blog.

Oh, The Joys said...

Amen, amen, amen!

Nancy said...

I agree completely. Nice take on this subject. I always try to remind myself that I am only human, I'm doing my best. And maybe my kids couldn't eat off of the kitchen floor, but they know how much I love them.