tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post8982653188015511597..comments2023-07-29T09:26:45.820-05:00Comments on Write About Here: snips and snailscinnamon gurlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-33401440877816925422008-07-09T10:50:00.000-05:002008-07-09T10:50:00.000-05:00I have no children (yet) and am eternally amazed a...I have no children (yet) and am eternally amazed at parents. I truly cannot fathom how people get through the first year, not to mention the second, third, and so on until about age 17. I hope when I have children I'll find out where that strength and patience comes from! <BR/><BR/>I often try to think of people as someone's child, as you did with the boy at the drop-in centre. It makes me feel a little warmer towards humanity at times when I need that.Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05334969603318926031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-62862094867895415042008-07-08T14:29:00.000-05:002008-07-08T14:29:00.000-05:00I agree with the others: every kid sleeps differen...I agree with the others: every kid sleeps differently. I do hope Swee'pea enters that heavy-limbed-nothing-is-waking me stage of sleep soon. <BR/><BR/>I have that "he/she is somebody's child" sensation often. It can be heart breaking.Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00567374243896229606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-72330562795843675462008-07-07T17:27:00.000-05:002008-07-07T17:27:00.000-05:00Your second story broke my heart and was the secon...Your second story broke my heart and was the second of that type today.<BR/><BR/>This type of thing:<BR/>"Oh really? We didn't find it bad. We had a lot of fun."<BR/><BR/>is about as bad a conversation killer as it gets.<BR/><BR/>Your stories remind me somewhat of my first one, who had medical problems, as it turned out, which affected her sleep.<BR/><BR/>We were more firm with where the second one slept by when (as Beck) on the whole and she didn't have the medical stuff but was a troublesome personality, and still is. They all have challenges, but yes, some are beyond the range.<BR/><BR/>So for someone to do the oh really thing...yeah that can be a real kick. I've never run into it that it wasn't meant somewhat disparagingly as in "yeah? what's wrong with you" kind of way.<BR/><BR/>Your time was tough. That's real.<BR/><BR/>No two kids are alike but you always get a challenge, and some challenges are harder than others, and each hits us differently. <BR/><BR/>So Phhbbtt on 'oh really.' Really.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-37523070924343024722008-07-07T12:56:00.000-05:002008-07-07T12:56:00.000-05:00What's been the hardest for me is dealing with my ...What's been the hardest for me is dealing with my kids' differences. They are night and day and while I didn't expect them to be carbon copies, I didn't really expect them to be so different.<BR/><BR/>I also didn't expect Oliver to be such a spitfire. <BR/><BR/>It's a learning curve, one that I'm hugging. <BR/><BR/>Great post.mamatuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02692442843330582571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-57789044763686161072008-07-07T12:45:00.000-05:002008-07-07T12:45:00.000-05:00well, you know what our first's sleeping issues we...well, you know what our first's sleeping issues were like... honestly, it made me feel prepared for anything, which i was. and then i had #2 (which i really jonesed for), and she is so different! <BR/><BR/>i say, if you're not into having another, don't, because you won't be doing anyone any favours to have another before you're ready, but i do have to echo what the other moms x2 have said - it's nowhere near as tough as the first time.karengreenershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488069680575426742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-60552172620483038972008-07-07T12:42:00.000-05:002008-07-07T12:42:00.000-05:00One kid. I"m stopping. We had a rough time, too,...One kid. I"m stopping. We had a rough time, too, and frankly, I don't know if my marriage can go through another couple of years like that, or my career.<BR/><BR/>You know what? I feel exactly the same way you do about people who are going on to have a second (Um, Ewe, and Kittenpie, and Nomo, and Bon, I love you and all but ...). I totally get how you feel the betrayal. Somehow, they're making me look bad, or tacitly telling me that I'm a big baby or something.<BR/><BR/>So. Let me be the first to say: me too, I feel exactly the same.Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10812707312289852258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-78248413004872927402008-07-07T10:39:00.000-05:002008-07-07T10:39:00.000-05:00Our sleep issues are somewhere in between "average...Our sleep issues are somewhere in between "average" and yours- Pumpkin is 15 months, and has yet to sleep through the night more than a couple of times. But she's usually only up once or twice in the night, so if I go to bed earlyish I can get enough sleep to not feel too traumatized. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, we know we want a second child, and we know that I'm not getting any younger, but... it is so hard to think about actually stopping the birth control when Pumpkin is still not sleeping all that well. I think we'll eventually do it, but the thought of going back to the early days still scares me. I love Pumpkin to bits, but I hope the second one sleeps better!<BR/><BR/>The last bit about the drop in center is right on target. It is too easy to forget that everyone is someone's child.Cloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09317847285050447789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-1073891336215919212008-07-07T08:35:00.000-05:002008-07-07T08:35:00.000-05:00dude, you have every right to a fair dose of PTSD ...dude, you have every right to a fair dose of PTSD after the sleep deprivation Swee'pea brought with him...seriously. that fell way outside the usual, and often once one is able to leave a period like that behind and realize just how traumatic - and unusual - it was, one builds up defenses about the idea of ever doing that to oneself again. i think it's self preservation.<BR/><BR/>for what it's worth, i had a way easier time with O than you did with Swee'pea (only four or five really bad months of sleep dep) and i'm still scared shitless of this baby's arrival, much as i desperately want her. it's the long-term payoff of having another child to love that makes me hope i'll manage it with some grace.<BR/><BR/>the boy at the shelter? yes. i see them all as somebody's boy, now. and they break my heart.Bonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403701620708365171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-40120391571524167742008-07-07T08:30:00.000-05:002008-07-07T08:30:00.000-05:00We have one car. Sean shuttles Cakes around in the...We have one car. Sean shuttles Cakes around in the MEC single trailer. They both love it.metro mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00461160881873679783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-56385611237943438362008-07-07T07:46:00.000-05:002008-07-07T07:46:00.000-05:00Kids are so different, Sin. I think the odds of yo...Kids are so different, Sin. I think the odds of you getting another kiddo with the same sleep issues that Swee'Pea had is really slim, though not impossible, of course. If it is something you want, you just have to close your eyes and dive in again. It's likely to be a completely different experience this time around, goodness knows KayTar is nothing like BubTar. LOL.<BR/><BR/>I'm glad that boy has someone caring about him, too.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-43945546375874289112008-07-06T21:57:00.000-05:002008-07-06T21:57:00.000-05:00You know what? The first year with the Boy was so...You know what? The first year with the Boy was so hard for so many reasons that I thought I couldn't go back. Just couldn't. Finally, I had to close my eyes and jump in because I knew, down the line, I wanted to end up with two kids.<BR/><BR/>And yeah, a lot of stuff still sucks. Really sucks. BUT. It took the second child to show me how fun babies could be. I never thought it possible. I thought it was just a stage to "get through". I stand corrected.Run ANChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06088821030860597465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-38307847735919353722008-07-06T18:50:00.000-05:002008-07-06T18:50:00.000-05:00We swore we were done with L., #1. We bought our f...We swore we were done with L., #1. We bought our first house (stupidly) telling ourselves it was okay if it was tiny, we were only going to have one child. I never understood those moms who could give birth and then declare themselves ready for another...and another. But with T. I felt that way--it was easy and hard in many ways, but so doable.Aliki2006https://www.blogger.com/profile/15763865834765963343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-29519569599099817872008-07-06T17:35:00.000-05:002008-07-06T17:35:00.000-05:00Ewe, that sounds like your boys were fairly averag...Ewe, that sounds like your boys were fairly average sleepers. Swee'pea didn't sleep through the night until he was like 17 months old, and even now it's only a once a month kind of event (and it's been a few months at that - I'm hoping it will get better when he gets his molars in).<BR/><BR/>But yeah, of course it's worth it.cinnamon gurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-56306231523809193282008-07-06T16:49:00.000-05:002008-07-06T16:49:00.000-05:00It's the first three months that were the hardest ...It's the first three months that were the hardest for me, with both our boys. Sleep deprivation really is a b*tch and a half. But they were sooo worth it, so I forgave them. ;-)ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-90999954565330757492008-07-06T16:09:00.000-05:002008-07-06T16:09:00.000-05:00Yeah, PTSD about the baby years is very accurate a...Yeah, PTSD about the baby years is very accurate analogy. I don't know if I'll ever get nostalgic about those months. <BR/><BR/>My girlfriend has four kids and she keeps reassuring me that her hyper-fertility is not catchy. Phew.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-85785069790230407392008-07-06T14:19:00.000-05:002008-07-06T14:19:00.000-05:00Nothing in the world was harder than my first chil...Nothing in the world was harder than my first child. Not anything. I thought we would die, all three of us, just drop dead from exhaustion. But we made it.<BR/><BR/>The second kid was EASY - I knew how to breastfeed! I didn't take as many things seriously! - and something about the routines of life with a toddler kept us from focusing so much on how tiring a baby was. <BR/><BR/>Our third kid was kind of a pain in the butt. Her health problems made everything SUPER SCARY... but friends who've gone on to have a fourth child say that you barely NOTICE, at that point.<BR/><BR/>My husband puts his foot down at 11 months - no more babies in our bed. (unless they're sick) Having that as a family boundary makes everyone get much more rest and makes parenting as a whole feel easier.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.com