tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post8590511425649690880..comments2023-07-29T09:26:45.820-05:00Comments on Write About Here: Why am I writing so much about tv?cinnamon gurlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-70478895177860997042007-06-15T22:35:00.000-05:002007-06-15T22:35:00.000-05:00I have eight kids and each one has been different ...I have eight kids and each one has been different with their sleeping. I've NEVER had one that sleeps through the night. My first stayed up late, and still does at age 16. She's just wired to be a night owl. <BR/>Hang in there. I know the feeling of being on top of the world and a "perfect mother" and then feeling like you're falling off of a cliff.<BR/>Just keep on keeping on.Margehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12303435069853445922noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-48341656878356649932007-05-29T14:05:00.000-05:002007-05-29T14:05:00.000-05:00Oh, oh, oh, oh. I know exactly how you feel. Thi...Oh, oh, oh, oh. I know exactly how you feel. This crazy careening between on top of the world and completely despairing, this rage and withdrawal and survival-mode and self-loathing.<BR/><BR/>You're a good mom. What a crappy situation. Just get through it, and then decide what sleep training, if any, you want to try.<BR/><BR/>Those hours are so so important to me too. I know just how you feel. I'm so sorry.Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10812707312289852258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-90192827066644130252007-05-26T09:38:00.000-05:002007-05-26T09:38:00.000-05:00I have no advice for you re the sleeping problems ...I have no advice for you re the sleeping problems you're dealing with... just a 'please hang in there' thought coming your way.ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-27806061264877589712007-05-26T09:22:00.000-05:002007-05-26T09:22:00.000-05:00honey, i remember when M was SP's age and i though...honey, i remember when M was SP's age and i thought it was never going to get better. she was great, but i just couldn't figure it out.<BR/><BR/>and then it did. a while later, it magically did. i promise you. i promise you. i promise you.<BR/><BR/>but i'd never have believed it back then. never. it's the meantime that is hard.<BR/><BR/>but i promise you.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-82818637360466061762007-05-26T07:46:00.000-05:002007-05-26T07:46:00.000-05:00I tried the No Cry Sleep Solution with Tessa becau...I tried the No Cry Sleep Solution with Tessa because I thought I would have to be committed to an institution, I was so tired and at the end of my rope with her. Anyway, it was pretty much useless. One thing we did learn with two kids who just wouldn't sleep was that those books just don't work, they really don't. Ultimately you have to do what works and if that means watching TV while Sweet'Pea plays then there is nothing wrong with that.<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry to keep saying that it will get better--I know how annoying that phrase is when things are so NOT good. But they will--the fact that you did have that good patch with him shows that he is capable of sleeping well, just not right at this moment.Aliki2006https://www.blogger.com/profile/15763865834765963343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-41639358033786349642007-05-25T20:52:00.000-05:002007-05-25T20:52:00.000-05:00Holy shit, Sin, you are definitely entitled. I hop...Holy shit, Sin, you are definitely entitled. I hope my comment on your last post didn't hit a nerve. I didn't mean for it to. <BR/><BR/>Here, let me say this. Last year at this time was one of the hardest patches with Miss M. I didn't think the sleep would EVER get better. Her clinginess peaked at 18 months. I thought I would go insane. I drank far too much in the evening just to uncoil. I was a wreck of caffiene, sugar, salt and booze. And Miss M watched her fair share of Idol and Dance episodes. <BR/><BR/>Things are better now. I may not get to watch TV but that's b/c the bedtime routine is predictable, though long. And when sleep does come, it stays. Oh Sin, I know you don't need to hear that it will get better so I won't say it. Know, though, that I was there. Hey, remember when you first found my blog? Detachment parenting? Now I am sending every positive vibe back your way through the ether.Madhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416585771017767796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-81972666681975915432007-05-25T15:23:00.000-05:002007-05-25T15:23:00.000-05:00I know it's been said, but there's absolutely noth...I know it's been said, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with your current compromise. Hopefully things will return to the good pattern you had going, but in the meantime it's so important to do something to maintain your sanity, even if it's just the very edge of sanity.Mousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14704189465052882543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-40879908769925725812007-05-25T14:59:00.000-05:002007-05-25T14:59:00.000-05:00Okay, Sin? You are doing a good job. You are. You ...Okay, Sin? You are doing a good job. You are. <BR/><BR/>You know, BubTar has always been a disciplined-go-to-bed-at-bedtime child. KayTar is NOT always that child. We put her in bed and some night she goes right to sleep. But some night, she cries and cries and we know if we don't let her out, she will vomit and then she will be up a minimum of 3 more hours...plus we have to rebathe her and change her sheets and do laundry. And so we DO give in. We let her get up play for a while. And later, when she is ready, we put her back to bed without a hitch. I know some parents would think "You let your 2 year old stay up until 11:30 some nights? How awful!" but it works for us, and it is what we have to do. While she plays happily, we enjoy some adult time...generally watching TV. She toddles back and forth between us and her room, happy as a clam. And then she goes to sleep when she is ready. We aren't spoiling her, she doesn't put up a fuss every night trying to make us cave, she does it because she genuinely is not ready to sleep some nights. <BR/><BR/>So what I'm saying is, don't judge yourself by someone else's standards who has a totally different kid. If you want to veg out on the sofa while Swee'Pea reads or plays happily, DO IT! You both need it. Choose your battles, and if Swee'Pea suddenly started sleeping better for you a while back, trust that it will happen again. For some reason it isn't happening right now and you can't force it, so just cope how you can. Watch some LOST and let Swee'Pea read about how to sleep train himself. It will be time well spent for both of us.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-47964434671437125222007-05-25T14:24:00.000-05:002007-05-25T14:24:00.000-05:00Oh I hope this passes soon. I know what you mean--...Oh I hope this passes soon. I know what you mean--I'm bitter when I don't get my down time.metro mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00461160881873679783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-33575032709833270062007-05-25T14:16:00.000-05:002007-05-25T14:16:00.000-05:00I am, like, locked in at three hours an evening of...I am, like, locked in at three hours an evening of down time. If I have to go out for some errand and thus begin my down time late, I find myself unable to go to bed (no matter how tired I am) until midnight. I must sit and veg for 3 hours, one way or the other. So, yeah, if that means watching TV while you're toddler reads the <I>No Cry Sleep Solution</I>, you're entitled.Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-41756603972730078952007-05-25T14:11:00.000-05:002007-05-25T14:11:00.000-05:00You are doing great. Swee'pea will eventually feel...You are doing great. Swee'pea will eventually feel right again - could be teething, could be a growth spurt, could be night-terrors, could just be that he loves you so much he doesn't ever want to be away from you ;)<BR/><BR/>Until then, why fight it? So he sits on the couch until 10 a few nights. If it's a break you need (and of course you do), you'll get more of one that way then fighting with a baby for two hours.karengreenershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488069680575426742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-6589274842248699772007-05-25T13:56:00.000-05:002007-05-25T13:56:00.000-05:00Those evening hours are like gold to me. Hang in t...Those evening hours are like gold to me. Hang in there, then do what you have to when you've got a plan you think will work to give those hours back to you. He slept before, he'll sleep again. TV is like brain bubble gum, sometimes you just need to have it there to buffer what's happening. In the witching hour of 5-6, I will often put on a cooking show with no objectionable content, just something to remove the focus from: dad's not home, mom's tired and busy, we're all cranky. Most cooking shows have slow paced narration, maybe that's why it works.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09390898429089863816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-22696730280488439902007-05-25T13:43:00.000-05:002007-05-25T13:43:00.000-05:00Doesn't the whole sleep thing just drive you nuts!...Doesn't the whole sleep thing just drive you nuts!??! I just left my hot, sweaty son screaming because nothing i will do can convince him he needs his nap, which, of course, he desperately does. i need it really, i need to blog and doze and watch Dr. Phil. I really get it. Hang in there.Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662448292809451387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-71343547595617372482007-05-25T12:44:00.000-05:002007-05-25T12:44:00.000-05:00i hope, i hope, i hope the peace comes soon. beca...i hope, i hope, i hope the peace comes soon. because the moments you're talking about, when you just need more space, need it not to be like it is...i know.<BR/><BR/>and i'm sorry you're there. and we'll be here, for what it's worth.Bonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14403701620708365171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-45316286769708959762007-05-25T11:46:00.000-05:002007-05-25T11:46:00.000-05:00Hang in there - you are doing a good job. Maybe i...Hang in there - you are doing a good job. Maybe it is time to think about next steps, but you are right to put it off until you are ready.<BR/>Can you get a couple extra hours from your caregiver to give you some rest (or at least peace) for a bit? The fact that you keep finding more rope DOES make you a good mom.<BR/>Hoping these words of encouragement help a bit - I am sure better times are around the bend...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com