tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post6471244693834064025..comments2023-07-29T09:26:45.820-05:00Comments on Write About Here: Just askingcinnamon gurlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-47580143298133740642007-03-22T00:30:00.000-05:002007-03-22T00:30:00.000-05:00you nailed it. it's not even an appropriate quest...you nailed it. it's not even an appropriate question.<BR/><BR/>i've been asked that, and i've responded with, define like? i like cake, is that what you mean?<BR/><BR/>not as friendly, but you can't small talk about motherhood like that.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-20649789065560549652007-03-21T20:34:00.000-05:002007-03-21T20:34:00.000-05:00tagtagMadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416585771017767796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-18987306726261929302007-03-21T20:05:00.000-05:002007-03-21T20:05:00.000-05:00oh ... and I'm doing the music meme tomorrow. i'v...oh ... and I'm doing the music meme tomorrow. i've been figuring it out.Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10812707312289852258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-46984457074440364212007-03-21T20:04:00.000-05:002007-03-21T20:04:00.000-05:00Sweet Jesus YES I think about this ALL THE TIME. ...Sweet Jesus YES I think about this ALL THE TIME. Sorry for the shouting. I think this is really important. You're exactly right that of course you can only answer 'yes' but it's kind of a lie in a way, and it does trivialize the godawful upside-down throwness that is that transition from not-mom to mom.<BR/><BR/>I'm reeling, thanks for asking.<BR/><BR/>I love her and thank god I do because some days she's not very likable?<BR/><BR/>She's great and I'm trying to live up to her?<BR/><BR/>I have never laughed so hard or cried so much in my whole life?<BR/><BR/>Everything is new and wonderful but I'm so so tired?<BR/><BR/>Hm. Good luck. If you figure it out, please let me know, ok?Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10812707312289852258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-84113038885390282952007-03-21T14:40:00.000-05:002007-03-21T14:40:00.000-05:00Jennifer:Yes, I asked Sugar Daddy before I posted....Jennifer:<BR/>Yes, I asked Sugar Daddy before I posted. He does get asked, though maybe not as much. And he trots out something like it's hard but rewarding.cinnamon gurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-74980080015111941422007-03-21T14:03:00.000-05:002007-03-21T14:03:00.000-05:00My kids are now 12 and 13 years old (not months, w...My kids are now 12 and 13 years old (not months, where has the time gone!) and I still find myself pondering the same issues. Being a mother is my largest, most important role, yet sometimes it seems to have subsumed the rest of my personality. This doesn't seem to be such an issue for men, for example, I wonder if men even get asked how they are enjoying fatherhood?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-45968149689562887612007-03-21T12:24:00.000-05:002007-03-21T12:24:00.000-05:00I always just say "Who wouldn't love this?" while ...I always just say "Who wouldn't love this?" while gesturing at my child. It nicely sidesteps the "ARE YOU DELIRIOUS WITH JOY?" part of the question, while emphasizing that I could not be more pleased with my many, many children.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-17866915698730290232007-03-21T11:22:00.000-05:002007-03-21T11:22:00.000-05:00I do think it's a bad question. I hate questions t...I do think it's a bad question. I hate questions that really need long and detailed answers yet the question-asker is looking only for a pat sentence or two.<BR/><BR/>Do I like being a mother in general? Sometimes yes, many times, no. It's hard work and I've given up a lot of myself in the process. Would I do it over again? Yes! Yes! I love being a mother to *my* kids--I love being a mother AND a parent. I love seeing what parenting has done for the two of us.<BR/><BR/>What would I say to that flippant question? I would answer "yes--I am enjoying the challenges of parenting."Aliki2006https://www.blogger.com/profile/15763865834765963343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-47808996117373217822007-03-21T10:28:00.000-05:002007-03-21T10:28:00.000-05:00Oooo, I think Metro Mama is on to something. I som...Oooo, I think Metro Mama is on to something. <BR/><BR/>I sometimes reply, "it's the toughest job I've ever undertaken and I don't know yet is the project will be a success." Pause "And, yes, I love my daughter to bits."<BR/><BR/>Great post, Sin.Madhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416585771017767796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-79442726924370401972007-03-21T09:57:00.000-05:002007-03-21T09:57:00.000-05:00It's a stupid question. Try responding with, "it ...It's a stupid question. Try responding with, "it sucks, I hate it" and see what they say.metro mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00461160881873679783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-20595056695896519612007-03-21T09:33:00.000-05:002007-03-21T09:33:00.000-05:00what if you just figure out one true thing to say ...what if you just figure out one true thing to say and stick with that? like, I love being Swee'pea's Mom.<BR/>Truthful and does not undervalue. <BR/><BR/>I would also say that though I am sure many people expect a positive quick answer, I am sure some are really curious as to how you like it - some people take to aspects of motherhood differently - maybe you could think of what you would want to pass on and say that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-18126739155510643642007-03-21T09:09:00.000-05:002007-03-21T09:09:00.000-05:00Awesome post. I love Mary G's second option - and...Awesome post. I love Mary G's second option - and you could modifying, depending on how much of a deterrent you want, like, "How many hours have you got?"Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-61314079564475987722007-03-21T08:45:00.000-05:002007-03-21T08:45:00.000-05:00Oh, the last part of the swallowed comment was, "I...Oh, the last part of the swallowed comment was, "I love your brain."NotSoSagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782162947524115936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-85496551802600227642007-03-21T08:44:00.000-05:002007-03-21T08:44:00.000-05:00Ah, crap. I just wrote this long comment and Blog...Ah, crap. I just wrote this long comment and Blogger ate it. Blogger is hungry these days.<BR/><BR/>The short version: I try to gauge whether the person really wants to know or whether they're just being polite. If they're just being polite I say, "It's amazing." (Not, "It's amazing!" But with awe and maybe a shake of my head.) That way I'm not lying and they can take it whatever way they like. I'm sure most think it means "It's great!" But some get it.NotSoSagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04782162947524115936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-68016606836812892482007-03-21T08:05:00.000-05:002007-03-21T08:05:00.000-05:00I'll usually say "Well, it certainly keeps me on m...I'll usually say "Well, it certainly keeps me on my toes!" or "There's never a dull moment anymore!" <BR/><BR/>I struggle when people ask me, on the fly, how my daughter is. There isn't an easy short answer and I doubt they really want the whole thing. *lol*Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-88974867580670408162007-03-20T21:35:00.000-05:002007-03-20T21:35:00.000-05:00I've had the question. I think it's like 'how are...I've had the question. I think it's like 'how are you' in that the answer expected is positive, and the asker is not very articulate and trying to relate to you in a clumsy way. <BR/><BR/>Depending on who is asking, you could:<BR/>1.) make up a stock one sentence answer that rings true to you, or<BR/>2.) ask a question back, something like 'How long do you have to listen?'<BR/>or<BR/>3.) Just say 'I love it, but I'm tired.'<BR/><BR/>I had two kids in fifteen months, and people would ask me 'How do you manage?' The true answer was 'Not as well as I thought I could.' But I usually went with #3.<BR/><BR/>I love how you're examining what you feel and how you're writing about it.MARY Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178370815712313585noreply@blogger.com