tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post4668607307555259714..comments2023-07-29T09:26:45.820-05:00Comments on Write About Here: When a baby sleepscinnamon gurlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-72549008875941652562006-12-04T15:30:00.000-05:002006-12-04T15:30:00.000-05:00I know what you mean about the parenting books and...I know what you mean about the parenting books and 'advice' so many people feel free to offer unsolicited. Every child is different; you have to figure out what works for you and your family.<br /><br />We were relatively lucky with our little boy. His sleep started stretching for longer and longer periods fairly early. (Truthfully, it's probably because I couldn't breastfeed; I pumped to supplement his formula for 3 months, and his stomach stayed 'full' longer. Breastmilk processes more quickly than formula, which is why breast fed babies have to feed more frequently.)<br /><br />Anyways, if one of those husbands had been mine, there's a good chance he would now be an ex-. Seriously, they acted like this? Too sad. And selfish.<br /><br />Oh, and I've been a lot laxer with my current pregancy when it comes to caffeine, etc. But I have a toddler to chase around; I need it!<br /><br />;-)ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-44396253078083861592006-12-04T14:43:00.000-05:002006-12-04T14:43:00.000-05:00Penny, I'll have to leave the listening treat unti...Penny, I'll have to leave the listening treat until Swee'pea wakes up I think. And the scary thing (to me anyways) is that it wasn't just one man saying these kinds of things. It was at least three different husbands.cinnamon gurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-78326149662450724362006-12-04T14:34:00.000-05:002006-12-04T14:34:00.000-05:00Have a listen to what the doctor deemed was a spoi...<i>Have a listen to what the doctor deemed was a spoiled brat in the making. ...Turns out she just had great vocal chords.</i><br /><br />http://superkittyjumpsoff.blogspot.com/2005/01/oee-screams.htmlSuperP.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06830641369098524799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-11383527122632376642006-12-04T14:30:00.000-05:002006-12-04T14:30:00.000-05:00Oh yeah.. and in reading the comments, I remembere...Oh yeah.. and in reading the comments, I remembered this..<br /><br />About twenty seconds after Oee was delivered, she had given us the first taste of her glass-shattering, ear-drum-breaking, near-dog-whistle pitched scream (she never cried.. she always screamed) and the OBGyn said, very seriously, to me, as he was removing his gloves as the nurses brought her to me, "You are going to have to watch that ~ she'll use it against you." <br /><br />He may as well have said: Welcome to the world, you little manipulative siren, Good thing your parent's had me to give them a heads up.SuperP.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06830641369098524799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-81793532334738969252006-12-04T14:27:00.000-05:002006-12-04T14:27:00.000-05:00"He's not hungry, he just wants comfort,"
uh.. s..."He's not hungry, he just wants comfort," <br /><br />uh.. since when did comfort become an anti-need? Food and Shelter is good enough, eh? Love and Cuddles are for sissies? Men like that make me angry.<br /><br />My ex used to get angry, because my Oee used to moan/sing/lull herself when she was tired.. it went something like this.. "uhhh uhhh uh uhhhhhh uhhhhhh mmmmmmm uhhh" (a little gets lost in the translation) and he would say to me, "Make her stop that. She's just trying to get attention. You're teaching her to do that. Oee stop that!" She was 9 months old. <br /><br />My baby girl slept with me, fed on demand and was comforted everytime she wanted. She's highly independent, mature, diplomatic, fair, reasonable and sweet for her age. <br /><br />Next time that man asks his wife for a hug or sex or a backrub, she should tell him, "I fed you dinner, didn't I?"<br /><br />urgh.. aggravating.SuperP.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06830641369098524799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-15372831040790503712006-12-04T01:02:00.000-05:002006-12-04T01:02:00.000-05:00what a great post. i am absolutely going to read t...what a great post. i am absolutely going to read that book. <br /><br />and my buttons were definitely pushed on the other bits, but i have to think on it further...<br /><br />i stopped reading baby books a long time ago - we just try and do what feels right.<br /><br />who knows...?Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-54751590204677778672006-12-03T22:57:00.000-05:002006-12-03T22:57:00.000-05:00I gave up reading parenting books about half way t...I gave up reading parenting books about half way through #2's infancy. #1 was an easy baby, so it was easy to apply the books. #2 was another story and the books didn't work anymore - so I literally tossed them away. #2 never did more than a 2-3 hour stretch for the first year of her life and only properly started sleeping through at 3 years (we saw an osteopath which helped greatly and if you are interested I'd recommend you see one for SP - it is very gentle and non-invasive and it made a big difference to G and her sleep). Anyway, with #3 I just went with the flow and trusted my instincts and it worked perfectly. At 14 months she is a great sleeper and we've NEVER had to make her cry it out.Emhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17574688179517054558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-70671227028220065832006-12-03T21:54:00.000-05:002006-12-03T21:54:00.000-05:00Mad, Sugar Daddy was more opposed to sleep trainin...Mad, Sugar Daddy was more opposed to sleep training than I was on my darker days too for the same reasons. But now I'm glad we're doing what we're doing, even though it's tough going sometimes. Plus, I don't even think we would have made it through sleep training successfully anyways.cinnamon gurlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-18542904411590707152006-12-03T21:53:00.000-05:002006-12-03T21:53:00.000-05:00Excellent poitn about how the "manuals for moms" s...Excellent poitn about how the "manuals for moms" so attempt to override our own instincts.<br /><br />So do armchair experts, unsolicited advisors, well-intended folks, and worst, often, healthcare professionals.<br /><br />By the time I had #2 I had learned the Fine Art of Telling People What They Wanted to Hear So They'd Butt Out of My Business.<br /><br />We co-slept, had frequent wakers (did I use past tense? if so, why?), and parent the best we can.<br /><br />After #1, we did decide to do some things differently with #2.<br /><br />Hey, at least we're able to learn in addition to trainable. ;)<br /><br />Excellent post.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-13873888805886148792006-12-03T21:41:00.000-05:002006-12-03T21:41:00.000-05:00It's funny, in our family my husdand is the one wh...It's funny, in our family my husdand is the one who is most adamant about not sleep training. He cannont even consider for one second the possibility of Miss M going uncomforted. I more or less agree with him but in the darkest of days I had my doubts b/c doggone, it was never HIM she wanted when she wailed every two hours. We persevered. We are happy with the decision we took. We live with some of the not-so-great consequences of it. <br /><br />As you know, I chucked the books a while back.Madhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416585771017767796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-53747384932919180272006-12-03T21:39:00.000-05:002006-12-03T21:39:00.000-05:00Great post, I ditto all you've said. I'll NEVER f...Great post, I ditto all you've said. I'll NEVER forget our first pediatrician appointment when Liam was about two weeks old. After going over the regular things, the doctor looked over her specs at us and proceeded to tell us that we could coddle Liam up until he was about 3 months old and then we had to institute a strict sleep routine involving lots of cry-it-out and no (gasp!) co-sleep whatsoever. We left the office feeling so small and insecure about ourselves at parents--and feeling angry as well. We ndver took her advice, switched peds, and Liam slept with us until he was 3 1/2.<br /><br />Your son reminds me a lot of Liam--the sleep side of it. We had to hold Liam in our arms for naps until he was close to seven months old!Aliki2006https://www.blogger.com/profile/15763865834765963343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-52961538354620842072006-12-03T21:14:00.000-05:002006-12-03T21:14:00.000-05:00yep, yep, and yep.
all of it. ditto. i've erased ...yep, yep, and yep. <br />all of it. ditto. i've erased and re-written this comment about 5 times now, because i could go on about every single thing you just wrote about. <br />so i'll say this instead - at 18 months bee is still a high-maintenance sleeper, but it has gotten a lot better. <br />keep doin what feels right. i wish more mamas would just shut the books and trust themselves.karengreenershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488069680575426742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-53977774158715799432006-12-03T20:23:00.000-05:002006-12-03T20:23:00.000-05:00One of the most surprising things for me about bec...One of the most surprising things for me about becoming a mother was the bossy, patronizing, manipulative tone of virtually everything written for mothers about the mechanics of raising a child. And I continue to be amazed at the way parenting books assume an audience of morons - I've only read a few books on child-rearing, but even books written by intelligent scholars in the field of child development seem to bend over backwards to provide entertaining analogies; they over-explain every point and aim for the lowest common denominator, as if parents - mothers - as a group can be expected to have no real ability to grasp even the most basic principles.Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.com