tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post4112858261637355468..comments2023-07-29T09:26:45.820-05:00Comments on Write About Here: The New F-Wordcinnamon gurlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05363288586285868779noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-44331031678386087132006-10-11T12:47:00.000-05:002006-10-11T12:47:00.000-05:00I love your point about the period of adjustment f...I love your point about the period of adjustment following a loss of privilege. Like you, I socialize primarily with people who have found it very difficult to make that transition from school into a meaningful full-time job in their field. To the point that it feels like a fairy-tale to me. I spent ten years in school; I graduated and now work part-time in my field with no hope of advancement. My husband took a degree in computer science and ended up working retail for two years. That's the norm that I see when I look around at people of our generation (though not necessarily the norm in Toronto, from what I understand - but if you don't want to live in T.O, that's what it is). My dad started working for a big accounting firm straight out of high school, completing his C.A. qualifications by correspondence while he worked, and he eventually became a partner and continued working there until he was 50 (at which point he switched into financial advising on a part-time basis, a very gradual semi-retirement). That kind of stability can be stifling - but it's just light years away from what anyone I know has experienced.<br /><br />It is a big adjustment of expectations, and it creates a generation gap. When my husband was thinking of starting law school, my dad's lawyer friends all said not to do it because there's no money in law anymore. And my reaction was, what's he supposed to do? Stay in his lucrative <i>retail</i> career? It's a different world, all right.Beahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15957626443087438904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-5327038844497283022006-10-10T21:11:00.000-05:002006-10-10T21:11:00.000-05:00Such an interesting and refreshing take on the sub...Such an interesting and refreshing take on the subject, CinnamonGurl - I think that you're right that we need to be careful about how we balance empowerment with even-handedness in our dealings with each other, woman to woman and women to men and vice versa.<br /><br />As you know, I've had my moments of ambivalence about feminism. But I really feel now that I owe it to myself and my daughter to come to terms with it, on my own terms.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31853698.post-14262757447260747642006-10-10T20:20:00.000-05:002006-10-10T20:20:00.000-05:00I think it's such a bummer that the word feminist ...I think it's such a bummer that the word <i>feminist</i> has so many negative connotations, but it's more the fault of ignorance on the part of those who don't consider themselves feminists. They're the ones who equate the word with bra-burning, hirsute-ness and man-hating. Do we blame the media for encouraging this, or people themselves for not bothering to get the facts?Violethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10547452802344363142noreply@blogger.com